Who do you surround yourself with? What kind of company are you keeping?
If you are intentional with your goals , you will find that you need a revamp. At one point or another in our lives we all do. When "friends" present questionable behavior, behavior contrary to the direction we're heading in, the lives we live or the goals we have for ourselves. We should pause and take an inventory of our circle. Surface squad goals look nice on the outside, the pictures we take are facebook approved garnering 100's of likes but beneath the flashing lights and lipgloss we discover that some of the company we have been keeping is just that ......Surface. As difficult as it is to seperate yourself to be set apart , I want to challenge you today to Break the ice with other powerful women by revamping your circle into a cloud. Conforming your friendships in line with your mantra of morals, values and life direction. Pimps dont hang with doctors and eagles dont fly with pigeons..... One of the most important aspects of how people define us is by the company we keep so now ask yourself what does your company say about you?
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So this past weekend millions of women embarked upon the movie theaters to see the long anticipated 50 Shades of Grey . Adopted after a book that didn't show much command of the english language , so many people ; well so many women couldn't wait to see the written words unfold line by line, chapter by chapter on the big screen .
Out of those millions , 100 women showed up for a private screening followed by an after screening fete to continue the conversation in Wilmington, NC. In between the release of the trailer and the actual day of the screening I read, watched, listened and heard the criticism from a lot of people on their thoughts of 50 Shades so I set up alerts and every time something new was posted I was notified . I called this research. My fascination with 50 shades wasn't about the propaganda that main stream media uses to sell everything . It was about the Love story of 2 people that came from very different backgrounds and had a history of issues that helped shape them into the characters we saw on screen . Anastasia Steele - Grew up watching her mom marry not once but 4 times and that tells me there were a lot of men in and out of their lives , someone new to call Dad. During the conversation surrounding attending her graduation in the movie , Mom couldn't make it because her 4th Stepdad was sick ......A sign of a woman who puts their man first .... Christian Grey - The son of a crack addicted prostitute , understood hunger to the point it became part of his mission. He was also the victim of sexual abuse which he misinterpreted as love by a friend of his mom whom he played submissive for. ALL ISSUES that happen to people everyday and instead of seeing the Look I know there are some erotic scenes but that happens in movies everyday. I think that we put more focus on this film in the wrong areas than we should . Before we ask ourselves about 50 Shades of Grey - we should be researching what each shade is ? We all have shades that have shaped us into who we are and who we will become in the future if we think that far ahead . And each shade represents a situation, a circumstance, a person, place and thing that when combined creates a big screen fiasco of why we do what we do . On that point do we stand in awe of what we presently see or do we in our inquiring minds want to know how to get to what we see so we can either mimic to become or stand clear off. What do your shades say? I remember listening to a tape (yes a tape ) a very long time ago entitled the complacence of fools. It was convicting to say the least that when we decide to do nothing we find ourselves in a foolish place of wondering why nothing has happened.
There is a consequence that comes along with lack or works, drumming up an idea , talking about it but not moving on it. Has anyone else ever heard that faith without works are dead? Its pretty true ! We can not expect to create something when we ourselves do not take the proper action in moving forward to achieve the results that envision , hope for or expect. We have to hold ourselves accountable to the everything that is within our power to reach and if we decide not to then yes not only is there a consequence but as that old school cassette tape I listened to said ...we can be labeled as fools which we are not. When we write down visions, come up with goals we have to also create an action plan that will help us get there that also includes some of the people that can help us get there. If we sit on it......We run the risk of someone else taking our place in doing what we failed to and the consequences of What if's that burden us when we don't move plague our minds until we have the strength to move forward. Even if we don't have it all together , I am firm believe that you only fail when you stop trying........And complacency is just that ! Are you struggling with moving forward in a specific area of your life? Let us know and maybe we can help or point you in the right direction. |
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